The Bucket List


Like the rest of the world, when I saw the movie “The Bucket List” I was moved to tears and inspired into action.  I made my bucket list and surprisingly there were only a few things on it…

  1. Graduate college.
  2. Buy a house.
  3. Marry for true love.
  4. Raise my daughter to be confident, happy and full of love.

These were the truly important things to me that I had to accomplish.  I put my bucket list on the fridge, and there it sat…for years.

When I married my best friend, we had to relocate…the one bedroom, one bathroom my daughter (Punk) and I shared wasn’t going to cut it.  The bucket list came down on moving day and stuffed into a box like so many other things.  As we got settled in the new house and I was unpacking, I came across the list.

I stared at it.  After years of hanging on the fridge…I was finally able to cross something off of it!

  1. Graduate college.
  2. Buy a house.
  3. Marry for true love.
  4. Raise my daughter to be confident, happy and full of love.

WOW!!!!  I was impressed with myself…I had bought my first house!  Buying the house was a huge leap of faith for me, but I did it…and I had survived!

Finding my bucket list and being able to cross something off of it did something for me.  I liked how it felt to be able to cross something off!  I felt proud and accomplished!  Then it hit me…if I can buy a house, what else could I do?  I mean after all…a house is kind of a big deal!

I tucked that list inside a journal, and started adding to it when crazy things would pop into my head.  Pretty soon, my list started to grow…I realized it’s kind of a living breathing document.  As I grow and discover new things, it too will grow and change.

Six months after buying my house and moving in with my best friend, I married him.  Scuba is the second best thing that’s ever happened to me.  Marrying my best friend of 24 years allowed me to cross another thing off my list.  After all, we’d seen each other at our very best and at our lowest and we’d always stuck together and been there for each other.  If that’s not true love, nothing is!

Now, don’t get me wrong…I’ve done plenty of crazy stuff before, but it’s always been silly, teenager type of stuff.  I’m always the goofy, loud, crazy one…I just like to have fun too much.  I’ve always said “Life is not a spectator sport; it is meant to be lived!”  As I’ve “grown-up” and become a “responsible adult” my wild ways have calmed down…mostly because of Punk.  She has opened my eyes to an entirely new part of life I never understood.  I now know the true meaning of unconditional love…but…I digress.

I guess this is where once again, I throw caution to the wind and expose myself…NOT LIKE THAT!!!  Ewww!  Just kidding, just kidding!  It’s like this…if I put myself out there…maybe I’ll be a little more inspired or motivated to continue crossing stuff off my list.  Who knows…maybe someone else is in a situation similar to mine and this will inspire them to act instead of waiting and watching life pass them by.

So here you go…I’m sharing my bucket list with you…maybe you’ll be inspired a little to go play too!  I’ll try to write about some of these things, but as my name implies…I am a mom of four…life gets a little busy sometimes!

Things to do:

  • Write/Maintain a blog
  • Pull an airplane
  • Learn to knit
  • Learn to crochet
  • Learn Yoga
  • Meet DDP and have him help me (he’s made the offer, I just have to get off my ass!)
  • Ride on in a sled pulled by sled dogs
  • Pet a wolf
  • Feed a bear
  • Own a house
  • Graduate College
  • Get married
  • Buy a brand new car
  • The Polar Plunge
  • Run/Walk a 5K
  • Take up geocaching
  • Paint a picture

Places to see/visit:

  • Okunoin Cemetery—Mount Koya-san, Japan:  This UNESCO World Heritage site is a revered ninth-century cemetery created on the moss-covered valley floor of an eight-peaked mountain, so as to symbolize a lotus flower. The vast, forested burial ground is the spiritual home of the Shingon sect of Japanese Buddhism, and is filled with over 200,000 stone stupas of all shapes and sizes (dome-shaped Buddhist shrines) and Jizo statues (protector of women, children, and travelers). The cemetery is centered around the mausoleum of the sect’s founder, Kobo Daishi, beautifully lit by some 21,000 lanterns (if you go, you can light one). Two of them are believed to have remained constantly ablaze for nearly 1,000 years. Adding to the otherworldly scene? It’s not uncommon to see devout Shingon Buddhists dressed all in white carrying a staff while wandering through the labyrinth-like cobblestone paths.
DCED52 Japan, Mount Koya, Koyasan graveyard, Okunoin, line of Bibbed Jizo statues in front of tombstones

Japan, Mount Koya, Koyasan graveyard

  • Bonaventure Cemetery—Savannah, Georgia:  The Bonaventure Cemetery was made famous as the cemetery on the cover of the book Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil and appeared in the film version directed by Clint Eastwood. But this place has been drop-dead gorgeous since it opened in the mid-19th century. Even naturalist John Muir slept a few nights in here and wrote a chapter about it in his book A Thousand-Mile Walk to the Gulf. The twisted trunks of the chimerical, 250-year-old oak trees stretch their twiggy, Spanish moss-covered limbs over the myriad paths and give this place a mysterious beauty unparalleled almost anywhere else in the United States.


  • Australia
  • Tibet
  • Alaska (Denali)
  • Redwood Forest
  • The 4 Corners
  • The Grand Canyon
  • Bachelors Grove Cemetery
  • Yellowstone National Park
  • Mount Rushmore
  • Montana